Where are we HEADED in the current breakdown of sexual standards? This article "tells it like it is" and gives real ANSWERS you can live by not only now — but fifty years from now.
BOTH AN explosion and a revolution are taking place in modern man's approach to sex. The swiftness and the inherent danger in this sexual revolution make it vital that every thinking person give thought and consideration of what is taking place. For it does affect you. And it directly affects — like it or not — nearly all of the people around you. At the risk of being accused of sensationalism, let us look at the subject plainly and clearly. Let us "tell it like it is." And then let us find real answers that we can LIVE BY — not only just for now, but for ten, twenty, even fifty years from now.
The Current Phenomenon
"SEX"! Just three letters long. Yet perhaps the most explosive word in the English language. Think of the enormous influence of "sex" in our self-proclaimed "modern," "sophisticated" society. What does "sex" mean to you? Let's play the game that $50-per-hour psychoanalysts employ: "What in modern society is associated with sex?" Magazines, billboards, movies, TV, theatre, Hollywood, night-clubs, "jet-set," college campuses, hippies, automobiles, boats, clothing, cigars, beer, cold pills, stomach pills, shaving cream, deodorants, mouthwash and toothpaste. Is this list everything? Of course not! It has hardly begun! Our original question might have better been phrased: "What in modern society is not associated with sex?" This is much easier to answer: "Almost nothing." Look around you. We are inundated with sex; sex in every form, sex from every angle, sex at any time, sex around every corner, sex in every bush, sex from every medium; a saturation bombardment, a torrential attack, a deluge of perversion.
No Place to Hide?
Try a little experiment. Turn on the TV and observe how long you can watch without being assaulted by sex. Or pick up almost any magazine. How many pages can you read without being accosted? You will be amazed and aghast at the constant references and allusions to sex. But be watchful! Most of these references are cleverly subtle. Yes, "sex" can be subtle, but no less diabolical. Whether you are aware of it or not, "society sex," "national sex," or "cultural sex" (whatever you want to call it), influences many decisions in your life, occupies much of your time, and shapes your innermost thoughts and emotions. This society is where you live, where you work, where you relax, where you have children. There is no escape. You exist in this society! The November 13, 1967 issue of Newsweek discussed your society: "A new, more permissive society is taking shape. Its outlines are etched most prominently in the arts — in the increasing nudity and frankness of today's films, in the candid lyrics of pop songs... in erotic art and television talk shows, in freer fashions and franker advertising. And, behind this expanding permissiveness in the arts stands a society in transition, a society that has lost its consensus on such crucial issues as premarital sex... marriage... and sex education." An AP release of June 10, 1968 reports the following "progress" in the film industry: "American film makers appear ready to take another significant step in the direction of greater frankness in dealing with sex, obscene language and other subjects once considered taboo on the screen... Since the 1966 revision [of the movie code] vast changes have been evidenced in the film treatment of sex, nudity and language... Bedroom scenes became more and more explicit." Can you believe it? Since 1966 vast changes have been made — and things were quite bad in 1966. What will the next few years hold? We can only shudder! "Hollywood's reply to accusations that it is becoming more and more sex-obsessed is that films concerned with homosexuality, nudity or rough language... make money, because that's what the public wants" (Parade, Sept. 22, 1968). Yes, the more sex-filled the movies become, the more sex-crazed the public grows, and as the public grows more sex-crazed, the movies become even more stuffed with sex to satisfy the public. A vicious circle that is leading society in an ever-increasing whirlwind to disaster.
Sex Is BIG BUSINESS
The world of fashion will not be left behind the movies in satisfying society's craving for sex. "Fashion advice for spring: whittle the middle. Now that bare knees no longer are news, bare midriffs. Midsections are naked as nature made them in some of the spring 1969 collections, veiled only slightly with chiffon or net in others. It's all part of the nudity trend that has been moving into the feminine fashion world... gowns are totally transparent in a few collections" (UPI, November 15, 1968). Sure, sex is big business. Nobody wants to be left out. An easy profit lures all possible fields. The sale of filthy, perverted, detestable "smut" literature — pornography — has always been around, catering to outcasts, fringers and perverts. But now times have changed. All levels of society are eagerly devouring pornography. Many high-class, fashionable bookstores feature large sections devoted to "adult literature," and some bookstores are devoted exclusively to smut. Even the staid and unflappable New York Times Magazine of September 8, 1968 was forced to remark: "That we're in the presence these days of unprecedented and steadily increasing quantity, range and intensity of public sexual expression is an observable fact; that we're being inundated by a 'wave of pornography' is the most subjective of judgments." Too many people assume that sex is rampant only in the major urban areas while the vast "heartlands" of America remain virtually unaffected. This was true. But television has changed all of that. Yes, that TV in the living room has brought every home in America within easy range of the sex-clogged cities. TV executives, aware of the ready accessibility of television to every member of society, young and old, used to tightly control all programs. But the pressure of society has been too great; the money of greedy sponsors talks quite loudly. The public wants sex, the sponsors want the public, and television wants the sponsors. It is cut and dried: television exploits sex. The New York Times of April 4, 1968 assesses the situation accurately: "Every day viewers hear a barrage of double-entendre gags, view hip swayings, undulating girls and listen to attacks on the American Establishment. Dramas and soap operas often deal graphically with such once-taboo subjects as illegitimacy, adultery and premarital relations. Talk shows openly discuss homosexuality, free love, suburban [sex] life and the problems of transvestites... TV's trend toward permissiveness... is a reflection of the changing moral values of American society... If TV is more permissive, it is because the audience — indeed the whole society — is going along." Robert D. Kasmire, vice-president for corporate information of N.B.C. says: "Girls are wearing miniskirts, universities and colleges are more permissive. It is the whole attitude toward sex. We try to keep up with social changes... Each year we do things we wouldn't have dared a year earlier."
Sex on College Campuses
The future leaders of the world reside at the colleges and universities. Is there any hope for higher moral leadership from this new generation? You have seen that the cry for sexual permissiveness and sexual freedoms has emanated from, and echoes around these "bastions of knowledge." But perhaps you have rationalized the situation. Perhaps you have half-convinced yourself that this sexual looseness, lewdness and lasciviousness have been caused by a "vocal minority," while the great majority of students are still decent, moral and chaste. Stop deluding yourself. Face the real facts; don't stick your head in the sand. A recent survey by author Vance Packard has revealed that 75% of English and 58% of American college male students have experienced sexual intercourse. Even more shocking is the fact that 63% of English, and 43% of American female college students have had similar "experiences." Of the girls who had reported premarital experiences, 53% had slept with more than one man, and nearly 33% acknowledged intercourse with "many" partners. Yes, colleges all across the world are affected. At Britain's prestigious Cambridge University, 86% of the entire student body said that premarital sex is "not always wrong." At Columbia University in New York, men may now entertain women at any hour in their dormitory rooms. At the University of Pennsylvania, coeds are now able to spend the night in the apartments of male students. The London Times of October 24, 1968 reports that the London School of Economics issues contraceptive "pills" to those girls who ask for them. Perhaps the most exemplary story comes out of "conservative" New Zealand. Canterbury University's Student Association has approved in principle the installation of two contraceptive vending machines in the student union buildings. The president of the National Council of Churches... said the student attitude "seems to place sex in the same category as chocolate, cigarettes and chewing gum." If all of this seems somewhat hard to believe, there is a simple way that you can prove it. Go down to any large university. Look at the bulletin boards. You will be shocked! Here you will find advertisements of males and females looking for temporary sex-partners! These are our "future leaders," the "hope for tomorrow."
Consider the RESULT
"Just a minute," cries a modern philosopher "isn't this sexual freedom and sexual openness a change for the better? It's stimulating, enjoyable and interesting. Life has become scintillating and zestful. No longer are people inhibited and repressed — they are more open and honest. And, what's more, human beings love this racy excitation. Why retain prudish, outmoded, irrational moral standards? Why shouldn't we do just exactly what we feel like doing, when we want, and how we want?" The human family of living beings was endowed with a peculiar ability: to visualize the future consequences of present actions. Only man, of all created beings, has the potential to picture the future as the clear and direct result of the present. Only man can appreciate the "end results." Mankind should then utilize his ability; he should "consider the end results." Just what are the results of our modern, sexually permissive, sexually arousing, sexually promiscuous society? Observe these absolute results, and then you "consider the end results"! End result: VENEREAL DISEASE The Women's News Service of September 9, 1968 reported the following shocking statistic: "There is a silent epidemic in the land. It destroys the mind and sight and blights the unborn child — and last year there may have been 5,000,000 new cases, most of them secreted and unreported. The epidemic is syphilis and gonorrhea... now in a new heyday. The victims are walking reservoirs of infection, usually active sexually, spreading disease wherever they lie." The Wall Street Journal of June 18, 1968 carried the following statements; "More Americans contracted gonorrhea last year than caught the measles. 'Gonorrhea is now out of control,' warns Dr. William Brown, chief of the venereal disease program at the National Communicable Disease Center... The disease is hitting people of all ages, professions and income brackets... Medical men cite two main reasons for the surge in cases... sexual promiscuity especially among persons in their late teens, where gonorrhea is most prevalent. And they say that gonorrhea is becoming tougher to cure because it is becoming resistant to penicillin." This is not just scare talk. Manitoba's director of Communicable Disease Control, Dr. Emmanuel Snell, reported that, "Venereal disease is out of control in North America and the entire Western world."
End result: CANCER OF THE CERVIX
The March issue of McCall's reports that "Cancer of the cervix seems to be linked with the early loss of virginity and promiscuity on the part of young girls, according to three recent reports... patients with cervical cancer... had a greater number of sexual partners than comparable women who did not develop cancer... Monogamy in sex appeared to reduce the risk of cancer." Newsweek (October 21, 1968) reports that: "Researchers have long suspected that cancer of the cervix, which afflicts some 40,000 women per year, is a venereal disease... most common among promiscuous women."
End result: ILLEGITIMACY, DISTURBED CHILDREN
Over 300,000 illegitimate babies are born in the U.S. every year. Overall, one in fourteen births is illegitimate. Illegitimate births have trebled since 1940. If the present trends continue, it will be one out of ten early in the 1970's. About 44% of the unwed mothers are under the age of 20... Welfare officials say that something like 50% of the women having illegitimate children in any year are "repeaters" with one or more out-of-wedlock offspring. In the big cities, it is worse: one out of six babies born in New York City was illegitimate according to a UPI story of July 1, 1968. America is hardly unique in illegitimacy: Britain has an illegitimacy rate of one in thirteen (Times, London, June 13, 1968) while more than one out of seven children were conceived outside of marriage (Yorkshire Post, October 5, 1966). Australia has a rate of about one in twelve (The Sun, Sydney, July 16, 1968). New Zealand evinces a "disturbing rise in immorality," one in eight were born illegitimate (New Zealand Herald, July 31, 1968). And much to the chagrin of the Russians, who claim a moral superiority to the West, one out of nine Soviet children were born out of wedlock (UPI, Moscow, April 26, 1967). Now, we recognize that these figures for illegitimacy do not take into account those children who were conceived out of wedlock. A "shot-gun" wedding made the future offspring "legitimate." " 'Two-thirds of Swedish women are pregnant by their wedding day, and 95% have begun their sexual life by the time they are married... this is about the same as in most Western countries... but in Sweden we are more open about it,' stated Carl Gustaf Boethius, historian and editor" (Los Angeles Times, July 17, 1968). What possible chance is there for these illegitimate children to grow up with the same opportunities as normal children? Many "modernists" would claim that illegitimate children will be just as normal children. But the facts speak differently. Dr. Paul La Moal, Technical Director of the Observation Center for Juvenile Delinquents in Paris warned that: "Illegitimate children were more accident-prone, more liable to illness and had a greater infant mortality rate than those born in wedlock... The illegitimate child, owing to the imbalance caused by the absence of the father, has inbuilt, potential pathological (disease) complexities [possible mental disease] relative to the total psychological entity of [the] mother and child relationship" (Reuters, August 30, 1968).
End result: MENTAL DISEASE
"The new [sexual] freedoms may be creating new pressures on some young people, leading to promiscuity... and even mental illness... In a survey of 24 psychiatrists who treated University of Wisconsin students, Doctor Halleck found that among coed patients, 86% had had sexual relations with at least one person and 72% had had relations with more than one person. This is a much higher rate of sexual involvement than that found among students who were not patients" (Chicago Tribune, October 6, 1968). "Enlightened modernists" cry for more sexual freedoms to undo the repressive sexual inhibitions of society and make people better off. How could these self-impressed, lawless intellectuals explain the fact that the large majority of students who need psychiatric help have already experienced this sexual freedom? They simply IGNORE these facts. They rant about sexual permissiveness and sexual looseness. Proof? They don't need it. Satisfy the animal lusts of the people and they will all flock to your side.
End result: UNHAPPINESS
Society is clamoring for sexual freedoms. And surely society-wants to be happy. They are certainly becoming more "sexually free" — depending, of course, on what you mean by "free." But are they becoming happier? Two Gallup Polls give the answer. In a recent Public Opinion Poll in the U.S. nearly 80% of the populace believes that morals are getting "worse" while less than 10% believe that morals are getting "better." This is dramatically different from 1960 (only eight years ago) when only slightly more than one-half of the people said morals are getting worse. Another Gallup Poll, taken throughout Europe, found the following conclusions: "1) Religious beliefs are declining; 2) Morals have also slumped; 3) Honesty is on the wane; 4) Happiness is becoming increasingly hard to find; 5) Peace of mind is rare" (Sunday Telegraph, London, July 21, 1968). Yes, happiness is — as the survey discovered — becoming harder to find in this age of "free sex" than ever before. More marriages are breaking up. More children are being torn from their parents. More young people — young and old — are turning to liquor or drugs as a "way out," an escape. And "peace of mind is rare." It is not only "rare" but practically nonexistent among those who practice "free sex." For their promiscuity is not really "free" at all. They pay a terrible PRICE for violating unseen, yet inexorable laws that have been set in motion. The more one reads about and talks to those involved with "free sex," the more deeply it becomes apparent that these people are wretched. They are playing with something they don't understand. Toying childishly with something which ought to be handled with deep respect and reserved for a special, unique union based on lasting loyalty, love and commitment. Reginald Ramsey, in charge of Toronto's Distress Centre to take suicidal calls feels that the chief cause of suicide is sexual infidelity. He says: "There's a lot of domestic unfaithfulness these days and the more we learn about it, the more horrible it gets." Happiness? Excitement? Instead, many who toy with free sex are led to MURDER themselves through self-hate, frustration and sheer emptiness. We can conclude by saying that it is absolutely demonstrated that the reckless and promiscuous use of sex leads to venereal disease, cancer of the cervix, illegitimacy, disturbed and rebellious children, broken homes, wretched unhappiness and SUICIDE. Frankly, it is just not worth the price. There must be a better way. But what way? How? Where? Is there any way we can learn how to handle sex without going through the agonies of human reasoning, experimentation, lusts? And the resultant heartaches, headaches and death?
Is There a Purpose In Life?
Let's get at the basic question. We want to know about sex — and about happiness. But we must go further. We cannot fragment human life into distinct and isolated questions. To properly understand sex, we must delve into the ultimate purpose of human life. If there is no purpose, if mankind is a chance occurrence in the vast infinities of space and time, if man will live his short specks and wisps of time and then "disappear" forever, then nothing matters. Then we should all do what we want, when we want and how we want. Old morality or new morality, much morality, little morality or no morality. Nothing matters, then! But is there a real PURPOSE in life? You need to know. Are the preciously few decades of life just a fleeting, evanescent twinkling in the great rush of Eternity? Is it logical that such a fantastically built "thing," the human being, the human brain, the human mind, will be banished forever from existence? Should this "being," who can conceive of and comprehend "eternity," be denied it? What is life all about? Are you willing to face facts and find the true answer? The answer to these fundamental questions hinges upon the existence of an All-wise, All-powerful Creator GOD. If such a God does indeed exist, and if this God designed and fashioned mankind, then it naturally follows that every individual has an ultimate purpose — extending far beyond the few years of this physical life. This is the key. This affects you. Does this God exist? And is the Bible His divine revelation to mankind? You need to and you CAN absolutely and conclusively PROVE the answers to these fundamental questions! The Bible itself exhorts us: "PROVE all things; hold fast that which is good." If you are not afraid of real answers, if you have true intellectual honesty, then write for our absolutely free booklets entitled: Does God Exist? and, The Proof of the Bible!
The Creator's PURPOSE in Sex
It is impossible to understand the true meaning of sex without first understanding that sex and marriage are God-given and God-ordained. To leave God out of the picture — as this modern age is doing — is to degrade the marriage union to mere animalism. Notice God's PURPOSE in creating man and woman! "And the Lord God said [after He had made only the man], It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make an help meet for him" (Gen. 2:18). God saw that man was INCOMPLETE by himself, and so He decided to make a help "meet" or suitable for the man — one with whom man could really share his life. Then God brought all the other living creatures to Adam — and he named them. "But for Adam there was not found an help meet for him" (verse 20). There was no other creature really LIKE Adam — one who could share his sorrows and joys, his hopes and dreams. And so God created woman out of Adam's very flesh and bone. "And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man" (verse 23). Here now was a creature equal with Adam, another person with whom he could share EVERYTHING. And she was created to be a suitable "help" to him, and to be his wife and companion. For God said: "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh" (verse 24). God made us male and female. God created SEX as a beautiful and holy thing to be used to His glory. And, as we have just seen, GOD instituted marriage — not man, or the laws or courts of man. So the first and primary purpose of marriage is to make man and woman complete. Each is incomplete without the other. Man alone was not able to fulfill the purpose for which God created him — was not able to learn the lessons of CHARACTER which God intended — and so God created the woman as a "help" to the man. And, in the very creation, God showed that they were to dwell together as man and wife in one fleshly union — to share EVERYTHING in this life, and so make their lives meaningful and complete in a physical sense at least. The second purpose of sex and marriage is the begettal and training of children. For God had told the man and woman: "Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth and subdue it..." (Gen. 1:28). In begetting children comes the responsibility of protecting and training them. A stable, happy home and marriage are indispensable to the correct nurture and training of a child. And God commands: "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it" (Prov. 22:6). Both parents are responsible for the supervision and training of their children. But the minute-by-minute, hour-by-hour responsibility of care and training of the children falls the lot of the wife as the God-given "helper" of her husband. The Eternal God commands that the young women are to be taught "to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, KEEPERS AT HOME, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God be not blasphemed" (Titus 2:4-5).
The Home Is a School for Character Development
The home and family is the BASIS of all decent society! The lessons of character learned in the home — patience, understanding, kindness — all these are qualities that God wants in man for all eternity, and the family relationship is one of the best places in which they can be learned! Better than any other place, the lessons of decency, loyalty, and a sense of responsibility are learned in a happy and well-balanced home. And so, in addition to making man complete and to the begettal and training of children, a third great purpose in sex and marriage is the building of CHARACTER in the home and family relationship. The kingdom and law of God is based on LOVE. Jesus said: "It is more blessed to GIVE than to receive" (Acts 20:35). To obey GOD'S law of marriage, man and wife must literally GIVE themselves to each other in every phase and facet of their lives. Showing that this principle must be practiced in the sexual relationship as well as in others, the apostle Paul commanded: "Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency" (I Cor. 7:3-5). The material act of bodily union is a debt each marriage partner owes the other. But it is a debt of LOVE and is so intimate and holy that God blesses it with a NEW LIFE. The Divine purpose in sex attraction is to kindle love and intensify it until there is complete and mutual surrender of two lives. Love in its highest sense is union. The marriage union is of mind, heart and body. It is made sacred by God's command, for He instituted marriage to be the perfect expression of this love of man and woman.
The Attitude of TRUE LOVE
Love can be simply defined as a sense of closeness, warmth, affection and OUTGOING CONCERN for the one or ones loved. There are three basic types of love: love toward GOD, love toward fellowman, and love toward mate. In all three types of love, the individual is motivated by his concern for the OTHER more than he is concerned about himself. This directly applies to love in marriage. You should always be diligently trying to serve your mate, to care for him or her, to honor, to give to and respect. Sex is a tool in helping learn to express this type of TRUE LOVE — as nothing else can be. It exemplifies and epitomizes the attitude of serving and love toward the other. If this attitude is not present, there will, of course, be terrible troubles, frustrations, bitterness and misunderstanding. But here is a rich opportunity in marriage! GROWING in true love. GROWING together as a team. Growth will not always be smooth. Growing "pains" will occur. But these "pains" are signs of GROWTH — provided that both husband and wife are working together. The more a couple grows together — the more they LOVE each other, the more mutual concern and consideration they will have for each other and the more they share their mutual plans, hopes, dreams and joys in an ever-increasing and delightful marriage bond. God ordained sex and marriage as a means to help us develop the true love — the outgoing concern — that we desperately need to qualify us for the ultimate positions that God has in store for all humanity who will heed! It becomes quite obvious, then, that man and woman, alone, are INCOMPLETE — they lack something. Usually, the single person will NOT have the same outgoing concern for others that a happily married couple will have learned to express. They will be set in their ways, resisting change. They will want to do things their own way — being unmalleable, unpliable and often unyielding to the desires and needs of others. This is to be expected. They never had the opportunity to USE God's gift of sex and marriage as the Creator intended. They never have the opportunity to SERVE a mate and children in a day-in, day-out lasting union which must be based on giving, sharing and serving. Men and women were created with a NEED to experience and learn these lessons of the marriage union. Neither is complete without the other. But together, a Godly married couple is indeed a powerful and balanced team.
The Development of CHARACTER
Character development is the supreme GOAL of life. It is the very purpose of our physical lives. Everything else should revolve around this basic and indispensable goal. And true LOVE is the most important single characteristic of Godly character! The wise and proper use of sex is an integral part, then, of BOTH Godly character and true love. Its proper understanding and meaningful use has a fantastic purpose extending not only through this life — but into the time beyond. You now see the alternatives placed before you. You can plainly see the end RESULTS of the philosophies and practices of this modern world and its wretched use of the gift of sex. You see the pitiful conditions, the broken homes, the juvenile delinquency, the blindness and allied ailments caused by venereal disease, the gnawing UNHAPPINESS and the ruined lives. The wretched results of sexual lawlessness is incontrovertibly obvious. But you need not take that way. There is a BETTER WAY! May the true God give you the wisdom and strength to PRACTICE the understanding and principles you should have gained from this article! Reread it carefully and use it! But we have only scratched the surface. Because of the desperate NEED which hundreds of thousands of our readers have of knowing the real TRUTH about sex and marriage — and how to put it to work — Ambassador College has published a complete book covering this subject. This book gives detailed information and answers about the real MEANING of marriage such as none other you have ever read. It speaks out frankly and PLAINLY. It pulls no punches! It presents sex, and the PURPOSE of marriage, in its right and true perspective. Although it is a finely printed 324-page, quality book, it is plainly marked: "Not to be sold." There is NO PRICE — and no follow-up or obligation whatsoever. Yet every engaged couple NEEDS this book entitled: "God Speaks Out on the New Morality." To avoid criticism and complaint, we cannot send this book to unmarried minors. So we urge teenagers to ask their parents to request a copy for them. This vital knowledge ought not to be suppressed! If you would like to receive a copy, you must state that you are either 1) married, 2) past 21, or 3) engaged to be married with parental consent, within three months, and state the wedding date. We are willing to give this book without charge — but we do not wish to bring criticism or accusation from parents of minors. Therefore, we feel constrained to offer this valuable book only on these CONDITIONS. Just send requests to the Editor, at the address listed for you on the inside front cover of this magazine. And while you're at it — if you want to know more about the various facets of making your marriage rich and happy, read our fully illustrated, full-color, free booklet entitled, Your MARRIAGE Can be Happy! This booklet — and the fine book on the New Morality you may wish to request — will give you the "missing half" of much-needed information on sex and marriage. Use them and appreciate them!